My kids didn’t actually start a social life after school for another couple of years but this was a crisis.
Angela, the reigning, self proclaimed princess of the grade two class at St. Thomas, had treated poor Audrey terribly all day and she was crying over the phone.
Melissa was sympathetic but did not indulge Audrey’s self-pity. She caught Audrey’s attention and then said, quite firmly,
“Audrey, how Angela treated you today has NOTHING to do with you; Angela was having a bad day and she took it out on you!
Melissa’s wisdom astonished me. I couldn’t remember explaining this human tendency to her; she must have learned this information just by being part of our family.
Children learn not by just words and actions but by osmosis. The atmosphere or the “vibe” that fills our homes forms our children, be it loving and accepting or critical and condemning.
A child is like a magnifying glass pointing out our faults, good points and even our unconscious through their words and actions.