If my children could remember only three things to take with them into their adult life , what would I want them to be? Tony Berkman at BlogCatalog asked me this question.
1.Trust that I love you and believe in you. Let that love be your foundation and your springboard into life.
2. God loves you, just as you are. Relax in that Love, let it sink in , heal you, strengthen you and release you into freedom and joy. Don’t try to save yourself and everybody else on your own . Notice that I called God Lord. Let God be God and don’t steal His job.
3. Reach out and allow love to flow through you to your partner, children, neighbours and in doing so discover your unique vocation, your work in the world.
A child rooted in love becomes a secure, warm, giving adult who attracts as much light as he reflects. He can live in relative peace with himself and others. With his basic emotional needs fulfilled, he is free to love and serve other people and to develop intellectually as well as creatively.
Baltasar Gracian , a Spanish Jesuit scholar who lived from 1601 till 1658 said:
“Give me the child until he is
seven and I care not who has him thereafter.”
or
“Give me the child till the age of seven
and I will show you the man.”
A child grounded in his parents’ love, who knows that the Lord loves him, is strong and resilient Most of us spend years dealing with love, trust, fear, guilt issues. Imagine a whole generation of young people healed and set free to serve the world in and through Love? It would be heaven on earth. It would be the beginning of a revolution that would change the face of the earth.
Melanie, your own love and understanding of this flow like healing balm through all of your posts. You truly “pass it on”!
LikeLike
really??? it is unconscious. I am speechless, which rarely happens, so enjoy the silence 🙂
LikeLike
These are definately thoughtful indeed.
I was reading a book called ‘Mastery’ by Robert Greene and in it Mr. Greene said that it takes about 7 years to mentor someone. I think Baltasar was on the mark.
LikeLike
7 years-eh? now that is interesting
LikeLike
So the message is love-flowing into us, and through us, and out of us into the world.
LikeLike
motherofnine, you post just brought tears to my eyes!
I personally see a very clear truth, that our love is a saving account, the more we received when we were little, the more we could spend it later on in our life (of course this is only generally spoken, because there were still plenty of strong people who did not receive much love – or any love – but still be able to “spend” plenty of love). Once I hear someone said that childhood is a background of a person’s whole life, so I have reason to imagine, how a society treat kids, how majority parents treat their kids, can certain be a “background” of a culture. What I am really saying is, if all mothers in the world are like you, we would certainly see a better place.
LikeLike
a society treat kids, how majority parents treat their kids, can certain be a “background” of a culture.
this society often thinks that raising kids is a default job for women who were not successful in the world
LikeLike
Beautifully said. It is true that you resonate love. It pours out of you, Melanie. That’s a wonderful attribute. Your family are a lucky lot!
LikeLike
ahh well,…. All I usually see is my faults- light in/darkness out
but when i am with other people or when I write I know I am plugged in. thank-you, No words- enjoy my silence because it is rare 🙂
LikeLike
Lovely essay on loving your child/children or a child! and the consequences of doing so!
LikeLike
THANK-YOU
LikeLike
Absolutely and beautifully put. People would be less strident about asserting their rights if they new they were special already.
LikeLike
I did not think of that but you are right-people would focus outwards on other people
LikeLike
I really loved your post but there is one specific part of it i really loved, that part where you say that a child who’s loved by his parents is a child who can get through everything, who can become anything he wants, a child who stand a chance at being great and change things for the better, who can change lives for the better. A really lovely post, hope it gets a lot of reads from thousands of people and makes the impact that is capable to make 🙂
LikeLike
thank-you- YOU are kind
LikeLike