Kids Connect With Kids



Sometimes a child can help a friend when

                                                                                             parents or teachers cannot.

A child has the ability to speak powerfully into another child’s life because they use a kid’s vocabulary that is familiar to their friend. Our kids demonstrated this idea countless times in our family but one of the most vivid examples involved my second child, Jean.

The old, black phone, which was on the kitchen wall, rang after school. Surprisingly, it was for eight year old Jean. My kids didn’t usually converse over the phone till they were a few years older but this was a crisis.

Audrey, one of Jean’s friends at school, was distraught and crying over the phone. Her mother had looked up our number on the class list. She was most likely at feeling helpless, hoping that by simply talking to a good friend, her daughter would feel better.

Angela, the self-proclaimed princess of the grade two class at St. Thomas, had treated poor Audrey terribly all day. Jean was sympathetic but did not indulge Audrey’s self-pity.

My daughter raised her voice slightly to catch Audrey’s attention and then said,

“Audrey, how Angela treated you today has nothing to do with you. Angela was having a bad day and she took it out on you! She still likes you.”

Audrey snapped out of her emotional crisis and was soon chatting happily with my daughter.

Jean’s wisdom astonished me. I couldn’t remember explaining this human tendency to her. She must have learned this information just by being part of our family. Children learn not by just words and actions but by osmosis. When knowledge sinks in and becomes part of a kid, they are able to share and help their peers. That is a powerful tool to help other kids that we as parents or teachers should not ignore.


6 thoughts on “Kids Connect With Kids

  1. …and a little child shall lead them. I am going to tattoo this on my brain for the next time I need to address a similar situation that occurs way to often here. Thank your sweet little girl for me.



  2. I love this Melanie, only yesterday my daughter came home and said to me that she understood why a certain girl at school acted the way she did some days. In her wise ten year old voice, she said “She has a really tough life at home, she told us about it today, and now I understand her more.” I was proud because often when a child does something to my two, I ask them to think about that child’s family situation and they can see why the child does what the they do and it rarely is about them.


  3. Wonderful post – my oldest son was the class clown and counselor – when he passed away, we held a “Celebration of Life” party on what would have been is 18th birthday and I asked his friends/classmates to write something in the big leather journal I’d given him for graduation. Nearly all of them were memories of a time he had encouraged and helped them when Life was rough.
    Thanks for reminding me of that wonderful memory.


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