Top Ten Tips For Parents

mary_cassatt_xx_mother_and_daughter_looking_at_the_baby_19051My Philosophy : Advice from a relatively sane, joyful mother of nine children.

1.Focus on the joy of parenting, not on the activities you are giving up to raise a family.

2.Treat little children like people, albeit little people, with respect for their feelings, likes, dislikes and personalities.Listen to your children, even as babies. Read their expressions and body language. In fact become a baby whisper by learning from your baby because they are not idiots, cute dolls or appendages of you but brilliant, although as yet nonverbal individuals.

3. Accidents and mishaps are simply part of every day life when you live with kids, so plan on all your plans falling apart.

4. Praise works; berating usually backfires. Give good behavior lots of attention and simply ignore most ‘bad behavior’.

417729_441536755926348_1558005526_n5. No need to run around like crazy people, putting our children in every single program. Free time, even boring down time allows imagination and creativity to surface .Give them cardboard boxes, crayons, paint and paper, not expensive toys. Most of all, read to them. Read to babies, toddlers, kids and even read to your teens. You will be giving them a gift that will last the rest of their lives.

6. Cultivate flexibility and acrobatic skills by learning to operate in two gears. Slow and simple for anything to do with kids. Let your little ones set the pace. Stop and look at bugs and pretty weeds when you go for a walk. Never rush a kid; fast and furious only works when you are alone.


7. Root your children in your unconditional love and in the love of God. Enjoy their unique personalities and help them discover their innate gifts and talents.

8..Let children learn to do things on their own, like dressing or feeding themselves even if they look a little odd with a polka top and checked pants.Their pride will shine brighter than your need to look like a perfect parent with well dressed children.

9. Put your kids needs first and never let then get hungry and never let them get over tired.When I ignored my children’s limit of endurance, I created either a clingy shadow or a screaming monster.

10. Laugh. Laugh at yourself. Laugh at your kids. Laugh at the mess and mistakes and enjoy this short and  precious time.

13 thoughts on “Top Ten Tips For Parents

  1. Reblogged this on Lumena's House and commented:
    I love listening to people who are smarter than me. Melanie Jean Juneau (sounds like a line from a song I have forgotten) is a wise an loving Mother of nine. Too young to be my Grandmother, she reminds me of the older sister I never had, and wished for all my life. Here are a few thoughts I would love to share with you from a real, live Baby Whispere. Thank you very much, Melanie for sharing your loving spirit with me and my readers.


  2. Terrific post Melanie,with truly good advice. If parents would simply make raising their children to feel good about themselves their #1 priority, I’m sure they’d have no problem following your suggestions!


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